A Practical Guide for Loving Your Neighbor in their Time of Trial
Through the years, I’ve struggled with should I or should I not when it comes to my response to various levels of family, friendships, co-workers, neighbors, and acquaintances during their times of difficulties?
I managed okay, but probably not as well as I’d hoped in certain situations. Sometimes, the feeling that I was in the way or intruding swept over me. That’s when it was time for a quick exit. Then a sigh, and ‘I should have known better.’
I prayed they’d forgive me for overstepping the boundaries of their sorrow.
Multiple questions about what to do for others bombard my mind more often than I can count. Do I go or do I wait until later? Do I take food? Would I be invading their privacy during this crucial time? The list goes on.
Some answers are no-brainers. But others, not so easy. Would you go visit in these cases?
- A death in the family – Yes
- Your best friend’s mother is in the hospital – Possibly
- Your neighbor had a death in the family – Maybe not – Pray & weigh the relationship
- Your grandson’s friend’s mother is in the hospital – Pray & weigh the relationship
I’ll never forget when my mother-in-law passed away in our home after two weeks of hospice. Later that afternoon, there was a knock at the door. My husband’s co-worker stood outside holding a large sandwich tray. I did the cordial thing and invited him inside. He graciously declined, expressed his sorrow for our loss, handed me the food tray, and left. As he walked away I heard his words “if you need anything just call.” At that moment, staring at the tray in my hands, I knew he meant it.
This is a great example of loving your neighbor in their time of trial.
Alongside would offer insight to anyone desiring more information on how to care for those who need it most. It goes into detail and covers various scenarios of need on different levels of relationships.
Churches and places of ministry would find it beneficial if they asked their pastoral staff or hospitality team to read this book so they will understand and be better equipped to meet the needs of the congregation.
Alongside truly is . . . A Practical Guide for Loving Your Neighbor in their Times of Trial.
I’m giving away a free copy of Alongside by Sarah Beckman. If you are interested, leave a comment to enter your name in the drawing. The winner will be announced on Friday, March 3rd on my Facebook Page.
Kristi Shorts says
Jean…this sounds like such a great book. For very personal and dear to my heart reasons I’d like the opportunity to read this.
Loretta Eidson says
Thank you, Kristi. I wish I’d had this book when I was working for the church. Still, I found it to be enlightening for whenever a tragedy strikes a family member, friend, or neighbor. Blessings! Your name will be added to the drawing.